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Chayei Sarah: Loving the Stranger

11/14/2014

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So much hangs on the translation of a single two-letter word. 

In this week's Torah portion, Abraham approaches the Hittites after the death of his wife, Sarah, to negotiate the purchase of a burial site. He opens the conversation by saying, "I am a resident stranger amongst you." In Hebrew, the word for stranger is ger (גר), and its proper translation is filled with uncertainty. 

According to scholars, the meaning of ger in the Hebrew bible is "sojourner, temporary dweller, new-comer" (from A Hebrew and English Lexicon of the Old Testament by Brown, Driver and Briggs). That definition appears to make perfect sense in the context of Abraham with the Hittites. He is living in a land that is not his birthplace. He has no inherited rights to land or burial, so he must procure those rights through bargaining a price for purchase. 

However, in rabbinic Hebrew, the word ger is understood differently. To the rabbis, a ger is a convert, someone who has joined the people of Israel. 

It's not hard to see how the two meanings could be blended, or how one could be transformed into the other. All converts were, at one time, people who were strangers (i.e., non-Jews) within the Jewish community. When the Torah speaks of the "strangers" who lived among the Israelites during their wandering through the desert (e.g., Exodus 12:19, Numbers 15:20), it is easy to imagine that the text is speaking of the "mixed multitude" of Egyptians who came with the Israelites out of Egypt and decided to join them.

Even in this week's Torah portion, when Abraham calls himself a ger, both meanings can make sense. Abraham is a stranger living among the Hittites. Abraham is a convert to Judaism; in fact, he is the very first convert. The text can be understood either way.

The problem, though, arises in translating other texts that use this word. Repeatedly, the Hebrew Bible commands us to "love the ger":

The ger who resides with you shall be to you as one of your citizens; you shall love him as yourself.
– Leviticus 19:34

[God] upholds the cause of the orphan and widow, and loves the ger, providing him with food and clothing.
– Deuteronomy 10:18

Thus says Adonai of Hosts: Deal in true justice and show love and compassion to each other. Do not abuse the widow, the orphan, the ger and the poor…
–Zechariah 7:9-10

If ger in these passages means "convert," then the Bible is commanding us to be mindful of the people within our communities who, despite their birth, have chosen to join us. We might imagine that such people are susceptible to suspicion, distrust and ostracism. It is reasonable to suppose that the Bible is saying that converts need special protection, especially given the fact that widows and orphans – the two other groups referred to in parallel with the ger – are the Bible's most common example of people who are vulnerable.

However, if
the word only means "convert," then we will find that there is nothing in the Bible that commands us to love and show compassion to anyone outside our own nation and tribe. That does not seem possible to us. The Bible proclaims the God of Israel to be the only God – the God of all the world. How could it tell us to be indifferent to non-Jews? The Bible says that all human beings are created in the image of God. How could it not command us to love every image of God, not just those from our own people?

This is a challenge for our own times. We are living in a Jewish community that has increasing numbers of
gerim, in both meanings of the word. In the congregation I serve, and in Jewish congregations across North America, there are unprecedented numbers of men and women who have decided to join the Jewish people. Many of them made that decision because of their decision to marry a Jew. Many of them decided to become Jewish without having a Jewish spouse. The ger who is a convert is among us and we are commanded to love him or her just as we love the person who was born a Jew.

We also are a Jewish community that has unprecedented numbers of non-Jews in our midst. These most often are the men and women who attend our services and participate in our community, not because they are Jewish, but because they are part of a Jewish family. Many of these "
gerim" have decided to raise their children as Jews. Many donate generously to the Jewish community. Some find that the spiritual experiences they have in the synagogue are compelling and meaningful in ways that they never found in the religion of their upbringing. Many grew up without any religion to speak of.

There are many reasons why such non-Jews decide not to convert. Some have maintained a loyalty to the religion of their birth. Some do not wish to upset their families by formally leaving their religion. Some find that they do not wish to convert because they do not feel compelled to do so by their personal beliefs, even if they find Judaism to be beautiful and meaningful tradition for their families.

Yet, it is true that such non-Jewish participants in the Jewish community make us a better community and their commitment helps others to live better as Jews. The
ger who is a non-Jew is also among us and we are commanded to love him or her just as we love the person who was born a Jew or the person who has converted to Judaism.

And this, perhaps, is what Abraham is reminding us in this week's Torah reading. He says, "I am a resident
ger among you." Do not read ger as "stranger" and do not read it as "convert." Instead, understand that Abraham is telling the Hittites that they should deal with him justly and treat him as they would treat their own people. He has come to merit such treatment because he has made himself a part of their community in loyalty and in kindness. He is a ger.  And so we should treat all of our gerim, whether they have formally converted or not.


Other Posts on This Topic:
Chayei Sarah: Living a Whole Life
Behar: Do Not Wrong One Another

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Chayei Sarah: Living a Whole Life

11/13/2011

 
The life of Sarah was a hundred years and twenty years and seven years; these were the years of the life of Sarah. (Genesis 23:1)

It is not that Sarah lived to the age of 127 years old that took the rabbis by surprise. Rather, it was the odd way that her age is stated in the opening verse of this week’s Torah portion (Chayei Sarah). First, there is the way that her age is divided into “a hundred years” and “twenty years” and “seven years.” In the midrash, the rabbis use this unusual division to compare Sarah to the righteous person mentioned in a verse from Psalms (37:18):

“Adonai knows the days of those who are whole [תמימם]. Their inheritance shall be forever.” As they are whole, so are their years whole. At the age of twenty, Sarah was as at the age of seven in beauty. At the age of a hundred, she was as at the age of twenty regarding sin. (Genesis Rabbah 58:1)

The midrash answers the oddity of the way Sarah’s age is stated by saying that it teaches that the lives of righteous people are, in some way, “timeless.”  For Sarah, the archetypical woman, ages seven, twenty and one hundred are all of a piece. She is a woman of integrity and not a single moment of her life is missing from the integrated whole.

The second oddity in the way Sarah’s age is recorded is in the phrase: “these were the years of the life of Sarah.” After we have been told Sarah’s age, the phrase appears redundant. What does it add? 

In the same midrash, the rabbis answer this by noticing a play on words in the Hebrew. The word that is translated as “the years of” [שני] is a homonym for a word that means “two” [שני]. The rabbis creatively reread the verse two say, “These were the two lives of Sarah.”  The midrash says that the righteous have two lives—the life of this world and the life of the world to come. 

What does this all mean? 

Meaningful life is not bound by time. It exists in an eternity in which past, present and future are fused together. As a righteous person, Sarah lives both a life in this world and a life in olam haba, the world of eternity. Her life in this world may end, but her life in the eyes of God is forever. Lives lived meaningfully never really end. They continue to leave a lasting impression upon the universe.

Thinking about your own life, do you recognize regrettable moments in your past that have become “unstuck” from your life and have become spiritually lost? Do you also recognize moments from your past that continue to live into your present (and into eternity) because of the positive spiritual choices you made in them? How does living a life of integrity allow us to hold onto the past? How do choices in life that lack integrity cause our past to disappear from us? What does it mean to you to live life in such a way that “not a moment is missing”?

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